Once a couple of negative comments are in place, others, who may not of had a problem to begin with, will show up to the feast. Like piranhas, they dart in and take a bite. Some of them show their stupidity, while others are very clever and make very educated sounding arguments--twisting what you wrote to mean something that you didn't (I will say that these particular people are not without virtue though; they really show you flaws in your writing, which can be helpful... provided that the seething pool of arrogance and condemnation doesn't scare you away).
I spent three hours, THREE HOURS, yesterday trying to converse with these people. I was thinking that maybe, if I am just misunderstood, I could clear it up. Wrong. It is as if these people truly believe that in admitting that maybe, just maybe, you knew something about the subject you posted, it would kill them. If you are allowed the 'last word', it would be a catastrophe. If you do put them in a place where they can't argue, they will just find something else.
Negative, negative, negative. I can't deal with it. I am not a debater. I do not find pleasure in it. A friend of mine told me I should just 'post and run'. Maybe she's right. After all, she has been on LJ for years now. Perhaps guerrilla warfare of sorts is needed, but I just don't have the patience. My life is my own, and it is too short to spend hanging out with a negative crowd. I wouldn't do it in real life, and I sure as will not do it digitally.
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